As a 20-year-old, my life revolved around surviving college, working hard to pay bills and finding that perfect somebody to spend the rest of my life with.<\/p>\n
There was always some young lady consuming my thoughts. I\u2019d wonder when I\u2019d see her next, what I\u2019d say the next time we met, and I wondered if she ever thought about me as much as I thought about her.<\/p>\n
I envisioned myself living out a romantic comedy. The story is always the same. One person is madly in love with another person, but that person doesn\u2019t love him (or her) back<\/a> or doesn\u2019t even notice him. Having persistence despite blatant rejection, being \u201cway out of their league,\u201d and competing with a more attractive suitor results in mischief and laughter. By the end of the story, though, the persistence pays off. A romantic relationship blossoms and they get married and live happily ever after.<\/p>\n The leading lady for my romantic comedy kept getting recast. Despite my tenacity, the romantic relationships I pursued weren’t working out.<\/p>\n The cast for my romantic comedy kept changing. I changed my character<\/a> a couple times to complement the leading lady, but that was a disaster. I couldn\u2019t change who I was to attract certain girls, so I nailed down my character and pursued girls that fit the script I imagined.<\/p>\n It was a long and exhausting process. My fragile heart was taking a beating. Just as soon as I grew attached to someone \u2014 rewriting the script for how she could play a leading role in my life\u2019s story \u2014 she’d leave, and I’d have to recast the part, starting from scratch.<\/p>\n Admit it, you\u2019ve wished real life were more like a romantic comedy. You\u2019ve imagined playful antics and coffee shop conversations that would eventually endear your crush to marry you.<\/p>\n I love romantic comedies because everything works out in the end \u2014 the main character keeps trying and eventually finds or wins over his (or her) soul mate. But to expect your life to pan out like fiction can make for a bumpy ride.<\/p>\n For example, ever notice that \u2014 despite being a terrible person or a complete klutz \u2014 everything works out for the main character in romantic comedies? It\u2019s almost as if someone wrote these stories with the happy ending planned from the start.<\/p>\n Real life isn\u2019t like this though. And I know that goes without saying, but sometimes we don\u2019t behave in a way that acknowledges this.<\/p>\n Romantic relationships don\u2019t always work out. People who seem made for each other don\u2019t always end up married. Single men and women with amazing marriage potential sometimes remain single their entire lives.<\/p>\n That\u2019s because God scripts and writes reality differently than we write fiction. He works all things for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28<\/a>), but His definition for a good ending is out of this world \u2014 it\u2019s being \u201cconformed to the image of his Son\u201d (Romans 8:29<\/a>).<\/p>\n Are you thinking about that happy ending?<\/p>\nMy rom-com wasn\u2019t working out<\/h4>\n
Happy endings for everyone!<\/h4>\n