{"id":34817,"date":"2024-12-27T01:24:48","date_gmt":"2024-12-27T08:24:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.boundless.org\/?p=34817"},"modified":"2024-12-27T05:56:16","modified_gmt":"2024-12-27T12:56:16","slug":"why-a-boring-marriage-is-a-good-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.boundless.org\/relationships\/why-a-boring-marriage-is-a-good-thing\/","title":{"rendered":"Why a Boring Marriage Is a Good Thing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Boring marriages are highly underrated. Yep, you read that right. But just in case you need me to type it again, here you go:<\/p>\n<p><em>Boring marriages are highly underrated.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I know I must sound crazy. <em>Boring<\/em> \u2014 really? <em>Boring<\/em> isn\u2019t even remotely close to the adjective most of us want modifying the noun <em>marriage <\/em>\u2014especially if it\u2019s describing our own. And, as a reader who\u2019s most likely not married yet, you\u2019re probably not looking for a potential mate and hoping that together you\u2019ll have a perfectly \u201cboring\u201d marriage. Yawn.<\/p>\n<p>But before you stop scrolling and move on to a different, more exciting article, give me a chance to explain. You might like what you read.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not talking <em>boring<\/em> as many of us narrowly define the term: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/boring\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">dull, uninteresting, tiresome.<\/a> I confess that my husband Ted and I have often agreed that we\u2019re glad we have a \u201cboring&#8221; marriage. But we don\u2019t mean that if you hung out with us or listened to our stories, you\u2019d start looking for excuses to go home. At least we hope you wouldn\u2019t!<\/p>\n<p>So, what <em>do<\/em> I mean? What is a boring marriage? Here are a few characteristics that make a marriage \u201cboring.\u201d<\/p>\n<h4>1. It\u2019s a drama-free zone.<\/h4>\n<p>Drama \u2014 or as Suzanne Hadley Gosselin <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boundless.org\/adulthood\/spilling-the-cup-o-drama\/\">defines it<\/a>, \u201coverblown emotions and actions\u201d \u2014 isn\u2019t synonymous with conflict. Although we often like to think that the two words are interchangeable, they\u2019re not. While, yes, it\u2019s true that all drama <em>does<\/em> include some kind of conflict, not all conflict results in drama.<\/p>\n<p>Every marriage has conflict, the occasional disagreements that need to be worked through together. In James\u2019 New Testament letter, he gives us insight into what causes these quarrels: Our selfish desires war within us and drive us to sometimes fight with each other (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=James+4:1-3&amp;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">James 4:1-3<\/a>). The thing is, no matter how far along we are in our walk with the Lord, we&#8217;ll always have some degree of selfishness in our hearts \u2014 and so we&#8217;ll often have some degree of conflict.<\/p>\n<p>As I\u2019ve written in the past, if you\u2019re engaged and you\u2019ve never had any conflict with the person you\u2019re marrying, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.boundless.org\/relationships\/has-cancel-culture-influenced-how-you-date\/\">I\u2019d be concerned<\/a>. Where there\u2019s an authentic bringing of yourself to the relationship, conflict is bound to happen. And with it comes the opportunity to grow closer and stronger as you face disagreements together as a team.<\/p>\n<p>So how do you know whether the conflict has turned to drama? Here are some possible indicators:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Conflict is always highly emotional and explosive.<\/li>\n<li>Conflict is always the other person\u2019s fault and is characterized by personal attacks.<\/li>\n<li>Conflict is ongoing because it\u2019s never fully resolved, and the wrong is never wholly forgiven.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>But in a boring or drama-free marriage, conflict tends to look more like this:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If a disagreement gets too emotional, there\u2019s a commitment to temporarily step away and calm down before continuing to work through it.<\/li>\n<li>There\u2019s an intentional effort made to understand the other person\u2019s perspective and recognize personal responsibility.<\/li>\n<li>Conflict is resolved as much as possible, and there\u2019s no tally of wrongs kept.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A boring marriage doesn\u2019t have drama; what it does have is two people committed to approaching and tackling conflict in a healthy, mutually beneficial way.<\/p>\n<h4>2. Commitment outweighs personal fulfillment.<\/h4>\n<p>This heading may have put you on the defensive. I get it. We all want to feel personally fulfilled, right? Especially in our most important human relationship. And there\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting that to a certain extent. However, and this is a big \u201chowever,\u201d once we\u2019ve made that \u201cuntil death do us part\u201d covenant, a driving need for personal fulfillment has the potential to add a lot of unwanted drama to marriage. And boring marriages are drama-free zones, remember?<\/p>\n<p>Look back at the first couple, Adam and Eve. God created them to be united, cooperative, and committed. And they were \u2026 until, well, they weren\u2019t. When they started seeking personal fulfillment over God\u2019s instruction, everything fell apart (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Genesis+3&amp;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Genesis 3<\/a>).<\/p>\n<p>Fast forward to today. We all either know or know of couples where one or both parties have determined that personal fulfillment is more important than the commitment they made to each other. When this happens, marriages crumble and families are destroyed. There\u2019s the spouse who decides they made a mistake and didn\u2019t marry their \u201csoul mate.\u201d Or the one who feels held back from chasing their dreams. They need freedom &#8230; and decide divorce is the answer.<\/p>\n<p>Now, let me clarify here. When I say commitment outweighs personal fulfillment, I\u2019m not advocating that anyone remain in an abusive relationship. If there\u2019s abuse, it\u2019s vital to get safe and find help. If there\u2019s dysfunction or addiction, it\u2019s helpful and necessary to seek biblical counseling. I\u2019m specifically talking about when couples decide their spouse doesn\u2019t make them \u201chappy\u201d or \u201cfulfill\u201d them anymore.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.boundless.org\/relationships\/love-isnt-enough-to-keep-you-together\/\">Obligation isn\u2019t a dirty word<\/a>. And while feelings matter, marriage isn\u2019t meant to be built on a foundation of how we <em>feel<\/em> about each other at any given moment. That\u2019s why in a boring marriage, commitment outweighs feelings and personal fulfillment. It remembers that \u201cyou\u201d and \u201cme\u201d have become \u201cus.\u201d<\/p>\n<h4>3. No \u201cpower couple\u201d status required.<\/h4>\n<p>We recently subscribed to the streaming service Discovery+ and got to watch Chip and Joanna Gaines\u2019 new Magnolia Network. Can I just say that I love this couple? Our family even made their Magnolia Market a stop on not one, but two of our cross-country road trips. Chip and Jo are definitely what our culture would label a \u201cpower\u201d or \u201csuperstar\u201d couple.<\/p>\n<p>Jeff and Alyssa Bethke are, too. If you\u2019re not familiar with the Bethkes, they live in Hawaii and were on a reality TV show. They also write books and e-courses, host a podcast, and are social media influencers. Plus, they\u2019re doing it all while raising two kids. Impressive, right?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m grateful for couples like the Gaineses and the Bethkes. Both are amazing teams that God is using to encourage others. But I think when it comes to evaluating a potential mate, too many of us feel the pressure to look for someone who can be our Chip or Jo. You know, a spouse we can do something high-profile with or at least something exciting and fulfilling.<\/p>\n<p>But here\u2019s the thing: God doesn\u2019t call all of us to be a power couple \u2014 and that\u2019s OK. There\u2019s nothing wrong with marrying a plumber or an accountant, serving faithfully together at church, and spending Friday nights in your pajamas watching Discovery+.<\/p>\n<p>I love <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CNsberwLAt2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a quote that Alyssa Bethke posted<\/a> on Instagram. \u201cGod never told us we needed to be successful,\u201d she wrote. \u201cHe told us to be faithful. And it\u2019s in that faithfulness that we are successful.\u201d While yes, that\u2019s coming from a power couple, it\u2019s wisdom plain and simple. It\u2019s not position or prestige as a couple that matters most. It\u2019s obedience and devotion to the God who brought you together in the first place.<\/p>\n<h4>3 practical ways to have a boring marriage<\/h4>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re single, engaged, or newly married, maybe you\u2019re starting to think a boring marriage doesn\u2019t sound so bad after all. Well, here are three ways you can have one.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Pick your \u201cyeses\u201d wisely.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes couples spread themselves too thin. The pursuit of the next great thing \u2014 even if it\u2019s being chased together \u2014 has the potential to take priority over the relationship itself. But boring marriages don\u2019t let that happen.<\/p>\n<p>When I was writing my two books a few years ago, I had friends ask me, \u201cHow do you balance it all?\u201d My response was: \u201cI don\u2019t.\u201d There\u2019s no such thing as having it all. When we say yes to everything, there&#8217;s a good chance something will suffer or be neglected. It\u2019s essential to pick your \u201cyeses\u201d wisely.<\/p>\n<p>For us, there have been times when I\u2019ve scaled back on my writing or we\u2019ve taken a break from serving in areas we enjoy, such as premarital mentoring. Often what we\u2019re saying no to is a good thing, just not the best thing for that particular season of our marriage.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Pick your comparisons wisely.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I once heard someone say that comparing ourselves with others isn\u2019t all bad. On the contrary, it helps us strive to do better. But are we choosing comparisons that are not only <em>positive<\/em> but also <em>realistic? <\/em><\/p>\n<p>If we compare ourselves and our marriages to Chip and Jo or Jeff and Alyssa, we\u2019re probably going to feel like we come up short. We may start striving to be a power couple when maybe that\u2019s not what God has for us.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, we can look at a couple at our church who quietly walks out their marriage with mutual respect and an unwavering commitment. Or maybe we seek to learn from our parents who have shown us what it means to navigate the highs and the lows of life hand-in-hand. Accept comparison but choose it wisely.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Pick your friends and advisors wisely.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I read a social media post from author Kari Kampakis on parenting teens.\u00a0 There&#8217;s a good chance that you\u2019re not parenting teens. But the wisdom she shared works in marriage too. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CNlH5LyLRKQ\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">She wrote<\/a>: \u201cAs your kids get older, your circle of advisors gets smaller.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s that mean for marriage? I take that to mean that there are many opinions on the right way to walk out marriage and the best way to love a spouse &#8230; but that doesn\u2019t mean all of them are helpful. Not all of them are biblically centered or put commitment above personal fulfillment. Because of this, it\u2019s so important that we choose our close friends \u2014 the ones who often become our advisors \u2014 wisely.<\/p>\n<p>While I unpack this in-depth in my book \u201cTeam Us<em>,<\/em>\u201d here are three characteristics we can look for when we pick our friends and advisors:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They highly value biblical marriage.<\/li>\n<li>They view and speak about the opposite sex with respect.<\/li>\n<li>They build up a marriage and not just the individual spouses.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When a marriage hits rough patches \u2014 and every marriage will, even a boring one \u2014 these are the friends and advisors who help us finish well. They encourage us to say no to drama and yes to commitment.<\/p>\n<h4>The beauty of boring marriages<\/h4>\n<p>What do you think? Are you with me on boring marriages being underrated? Are you up for the challenge to reject the excitement of drama and embrace the security of stability? Maybe you&#8217;ve come to see that these kinds of marriages really aren\u2019t <em>that <\/em>boring, but can be beautiful. Beautifully boring.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;May you live in interesting times&#8221; goes the old saying. Ironically, it\u2019s meant not to be a blessing but a curse. It reminds us that interesting times are often times of trouble \u2014 and I wouldn\u2019t wish that on anyone. So instead, let me leave you with this: May you be blessed with a boring marriage, one characterized by comforting commitment and a lighthearted lack of drama.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>Copyright 2021 Ashleigh Slater. 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